|Rainbow Enclosing the Aircraft Shadow
Ever wondered why reflections cannot be the exact same realities of
Recently, I came across this interesting
picture shown above, shared by my college friend. While on her way back home,
to USA from India, she saw a pretty rainbow in the sky. With excitement, she took
out her camera to capture that beautiful moment, just when she noticed another smaller
aircraft, flying parallel to the one she was travelling in. It took her only a
few seconds; to realize that it wasn’t another aircraft, but the shadow of the same aircraft she was
Similar to her perception which lasted only a few seconds; don’t we all want to
see a part of us in others; in our friends, relatives, co-workers or our
children? Or isn’t this how we perceive our shadow in other people to be a reality?
Even when we are building new relationships or trying to be in sync with the
existing ones, we are constantly trying to find a piece of ourselves in the
other. Quite often, we try to identify their traits, habits, choices and approach
etc. with that of ours.
Unfortunately, most often the people who fall
prey to such perceptions are our children. Just because our children are with
us for the initial part of their life, (like a shadow) they really can’t be
driven by our choices and habits. If we fail to accept the differences in their
opinions choices, likes and capabilities then we definitely have chosen to
invite frictions in our relationship. This friction starts seeping in, when our
kids get into ‘teenage’ and it gets really
rough if we still do not identify their differences and give them the freedom
of choice to ‘be’ just ‘who’ they are. A recent example, of this failure by a parent was reported
in the Times of India Newspaper last
week(TOI – June, 2015), where an engineering third year student committed
suicide by jumping from top floor of his residence building because he wanted
to study sociology and he was forced to study engineering by his parents.
This doesn’t mean we do not discipline our children
for what is ‘right’, but at the same time we need to agree to disagree sometimes and understand that each and every soul on this earth is unique
and has a unique part to play on this world stage, in this eternal drama called,
life. To have a strong, healthy and a lasting relationship, we need to
realize that every individual is as different as his/her finger prints or
retina impressions and; so are the soul impressions (traits, karmic accounts) of
each actor on this world stage different.
If we accept people without any resistance
for “who” they are and enjoy the diverse human nature, having diverse
habits, traits, capabilities and choices,
then we surely can excel in our interpersonal skills at work and at home. After
all, we all love colors in the rainbow, don’t you?
Hence, the beauty of life lies in diversity.